If you’ve ever found yourself spiraling with anxious thoughts, you know how loud and convincing they can be. Maybe no matter how hard you try to reassure yourself, the “what-ifs” just keep coming back. You might pick apart the past or worry about every possible outcome before things even happen. It can feel exhausting, frustrating, and isolating — especially when you notice others seem to handle stress differently. That’s something you’re definitely not alone in experiencing.

I’ve been there too, and I know how it can seem like there’s no “off switch.” What I’ve learned is that the brain is wired for survival, and over time, especially if you’ve experienced trauma or a lot of stress, those anxious loops become well-worn paths. Your mind thinks it’s keeping you safe, scanning for danger or disappointment even when it’s not actually helpful anymore. This can show up as overthinking, trouble sleeping, feeling “on edge,” or an ongoing sense that you can’t relax no matter what you do.

If this is how your anxiety shows up, give yourself some compassion. It’s not about weakness or lack of willpower. In fact, being aware and wanting to shift these patterns is already a big step. There are lots of strategies out there — from breathwork and gentle movement to talking through what’s showing up inside. Sometimes, just naming what you’re experiencing out loud can start to quiet the noise.

You deserve support on this path, whatever that looks like for you, and you’re far from alone in the journey. Healing from anxious patterns is possible, even if it feels slow at first. Each small step is a sign of progress, and you’re moving forward — even if your mind sometimes says otherwise.